Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Protect Your Heart and Mind. Protect Your Marriage.

This morning I was looking at Facebook and I found a post that said "Homeschooling moms.....this is a GREAT way to start your day :)" Being a homeschooling mom, I decided to click on the link, especially since it was from what appeared to be a faith based blog.

When I clicked on the link it stated "In case you’re on the fence about homeschooling this year, I thought this might help push you right over the edge. You’re welcome." Following that statement were several photos of an attractive popular actor who happened to be homeschooled. Each of the pictures had something relating to homeschooling written on it as if he was speaking to the person reading it. While I am all for promoting homeschooling, I think this is going about it in the wrong way.

First, these pictures appear to have the actor speaking directly to the person reading them as if he was that persons spouse. I know he isn't my spouse, and I'm pretty sure he isn't a spouse of anyone else who read them. They also appear to be using his attractiveness to get the attention of women. The way he is posing and the expressions on his face are somewhat provocative. He isn't just simply sitting there with a smile on his face stating that he was homeschooled and encouraging others to do so. This may seem like a harmless thing, but I can tell you from experience that satan loves to use harmless little things like this to cause distance in a marriage.

Second, while I did not read them all, I did go to the comments to see if there were any other homeschooling moms who saw something wrong with this post. What I saw was the exact opposite. One comment was "Swoon. ‘Hey Girl’ is a secret pleasure of mine! Don’t tell my husband! These had me laughing."

Please do not think I am being judgmental. That is not what this post is about at all. This post is merely to offer a different point of view that maybe no-one has told you before.

Let me ask you a couple questions. What would you think if your husband looked at pornography without your knowledge? What if that was his secret pleasure?

This may appear like innocent advertisement, but when women look at these type of pictures it is pretty much the same thing. When you look at them your heart and mind are not focused on your husband, they are fantasizing about this other man. When that happens, satan wins.

"The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:11-12

Our husbands are supposed to trust us. We are supposed to do them good and not evil. I encourage you, sweet sisters in Christ, the next time you see something like this to think about those verses before you read it or forward it on for others to read it. When you see pictures of attractive men, when you read romance novels, when you watch romance movies, what are your thoughts? Are they of your husband?

Again, I am not being judgmental. It wasn't long ago that I was convicted about what I was watching and reading. It is not hard for women to slip into romantic fantasies in our minds. I encourage you to rid yourself of fictitious men and only have romantic fantasies about your husband. I'm pretty sure your husband will appreciate knowing that he is the only man on your mind and in your heart.

1 comment:

  1. I've seen those on my facebook page before and you just made a great point! Thanks for the post :)