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Obedient to Their Husbands - Protecting Your Marriage

It is not uncommon now a days for a woman to be in the company of a man who is not her husband.  It could be at work, serving on a committee, through an activity involving her children, there are numerous ways.

When I worked at a church a couple years ago, the pastor was looking for a ride to work after dropping off his vehicle to be serviced.  I knew that I drove that way, so I offered to pick him up.  He explained to me a policy that the church had.  If you are married, you are not to be alone with a member of the opposite gender.  He said that they do this to protect marriages.

It seemed so simple to me, but I had never even thought about it.  What a great policy.  It isn't put in place because of not trusting people, it is put in place to protect.  What starts as an innocent conversation, can lead to a broken marriage, a broken family.  The devil looks for any opportunity he can to dissolve marriages.  This is one way to insure that he wont.

When I was over the preschool ministry, I also made sure this policy was followed.  No married man or woman could serve with someone of the opposite gender, other than their spouse, of course.

Guard your marriage.  Protect your personal conversations.  If we simply do not give the devil and opportunity, then we don't have to worry about it. 

... obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not blasphemed.  Titus 2:5

The word obedient doesn't sit well these days.  Other versions of the Bible list submissive or subject to their own husbands.

God is telling us to be true to our husband and only our husband.  He is telling us to let only our husband lead us.  He is telling us to only turn to our husband for advice, for comfort.  To turn to our husband to provide for us.  To turn to our husband for the needs that a husband is to provide.

I've seen so many marriages fail because of an innocent conversation, that turns into an innocent friendship, that turns into the closeness meant for a husband being given to another man, that ends in a broken marriage.

I have been there.  That was my first marriage.  I didn't mean for it to happen.  It did. And it happened very quickly.  I let my marriage be destroyed because I didn't protect it.  I hurt a man I cared for very much.  I am truly sorry for this.  I know that I am forgiven by God.  I'm not sure if I will be forgiven by my ex-husband.  It was one of the worst things I have ever been through in my life.  It is something I will always carry with me.

If you are having trouble in your marriage, or just simply annoyed with your husband (we all have those days) then I encourage you to turn to a female friend, the pastor's wife, just make sure it is another female.  Don't give the devil an opportunity to destroy your marriage.  Protect it.  Guard it.  Marriage is a special gift from God.

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  1. Hi! I found your blog on the Ultimate Homeschool Blogroll and decided to stop by.

    Wonderful advice for all married people. Sometimes I think we forget that the devil roams around like a roaring lion wanting to destroy. Strong marriages are in his crosshairs. It's best not to even give him an opportunity like you said.

    Blessings to you!
    Kristi from http://homeschoolingandotheradventures.blogspot.com

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  2. Thank you for stopping by! Merry Christmas!

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