Today is my husband's birthday and our ninth anniversary. As I reflect back on these nine years, I am amazed at all God has done for us.
We met on August 22, 2002. We married on December 29, 2002. Yep, just four months and a week later. (If any of my children do this, I will hang them by their toes!)
When we met, neither of us had a close relationship with our Heavenly Father. Honestly, we didn't really have a relationship at all. We didn't pray about getting married. We didn't invite God to the wedding. We didn't include Him in our marriage.
But, thankfully, He was still there.
The first six to seven years of our marriage were full of heart break, selfishness, anger, resentment, exhaustion (4 babies in 3 years), bitterness, and the list could go on and on.
We weren't joined together as one. We were two people, living two separate lives, raising four children separately, but living under one roof.
I didn't know how to be a wife. He didn't know how to be a husband.
A couple years ago God changed our marriage. God showed us through His Word how to be the husband and wife He wanted us to be.
It started out with my husband going to a men's conference. I started seeing changes in him shortly after. Then it continued when my husband went through Men's Fraternity at the church we were attending. That was the tool that God used to start breaking down all the walls we had put up in our marriage.
Breaking down those walls was an extremely difficult process for me. It involved hearing things I didn't want to hear, being vulnerable, starting to trust, so many things I was uncomfortable with.
Thankfully my husband didn't give up on us.
Now, I look forward to many years with my husband. Each year keeps getting better. I can honestly say I love him more today than I did when we got married.
God can do amazing things in a marriage. All you have to do is put your trust in Him.
It is my prayer that if you are reading this and you feel your marriage is lost, that you find new hope. Turn to your Heavenly Father. He can change what you think cannot be changed. He can save what you think cannot be saved. He can make your marriage into what He created marriage to be. Put your trust and your marriage in His hands.