Skip to main content

Obedient to Their Husbands - Protecting Your Marriage

Image
By Home with Tracy
It is not uncommon now a days for a woman to be in the company of a man who is not her husband.  It could be at work, serving on a committee, through an activity involving her children, there are numerous ways.

When I worked at a church a couple years ago, the pastor was looking for a ride to work after dropping off his vehicle to be serviced.  I knew that I drove that way, so I offered to pick him up.  He explained to me a policy that the church had.  If you are married, you are not to be alone with a member of the opposite gender.  He said that they do this to protect marriages.

It seemed so simple to me, but I had never even thought about it.  What a great policy.  It isn't put in place because of not trusting people, it is put in place to protect.  What starts as an innocent conversation, can lead to a broken marriage, a broken family.  The devil looks for any opportunity he can to dissolve marriages.  This is one way to insure that he wont.

When I was over the preschool ministry, I also made sure this policy was followed.  No married man or woman could serve with someone of the opposite gender, other than their spouse, of course.

Guard your marriage.  Protect your personal conversations.  If we simply do not give the devil and opportunity, then we don't have to worry about it. 

... obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not blasphemed.  Titus 2:5

The word obedient doesn't sit well these days.  Other versions of the Bible list submissive or subject to their own husbands.

God is telling us to be true to our husband and only our husband.  He is telling us to let only our husband lead us.  He is telling us to only turn to our husband for advice, for comfort.  To turn to our husband to provide for us.  To turn to our husband for the needs that a husband is to provide.

I've seen so many marriages fail because of an innocent conversation, that turns into an innocent friendship, that turns into the closeness meant for a husband being given to another man, that ends in a broken marriage.

I have been there.  That was my first marriage.  I didn't mean for it to happen.  It did. And it happened very quickly.  I let my marriage be destroyed because I didn't protect it.  I hurt a man I cared for very much.  I am truly sorry for this.  I know that I am forgiven by God.  I'm not sure if I will be forgiven by my ex-husband.  It was one of the worst things I have ever been through in my life.  It is something I will always carry with me.

If you are having trouble in your marriage, or just simply annoyed with your husband (we all have those days) then I encourage you to turn to a female friend, the pastor's wife, just make sure it is another female.  Don't give the devil an opportunity to destroy your marriage.  Protect it.  Guard it.  Marriage is a special gift from God.
Labels:

Comments

  1. Kristi SlatteryDecember 8, 2011 at 4:29 PM

    Hi! I found your blog on the Ultimate Homeschool Blogroll and decided to stop by.

    Wonderful advice for all married people. Sometimes I think we forget that the devil roams around like a roaring lion wanting to destroy. Strong marriages are in his crosshairs. It's best not to even give him an opportunity like you said.

    Blessings to you!
    Kristi from http://homeschoolingandotheradventures.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  2. Home with Tracy December 16, 2011 at 8:19 AM

    Thank you for stopping by! Merry Christmas!

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Letting go of the boy, so he can become a man.

By Home with Tracy
Rain! We thought the rain would never stop. It seemed to rain every day for over a week. All the while, our lawn continued to grow and grow. When there was finally a break in the rain, the lawn seemed to stand two feet tall. Our oldest son has taken on the responsibility of mowing the lawn. He was so happy when his dad told him that he could mow on his own. He longs to please his dad. He longs to make him happy. He longs for his approval. Of course, he doesn't have to mow in order to do or receive any of those things. He has been a daddy's boy since the day he came into the world and we found out we had a son. Our son went out to tackle mowing the lawn. He had been asking me every day if he could mow and today I was finally able to say yes, that it was dry enough. He had been out there mowing for about 20 minutes when he came in for a drink. He was dripping with sweat. My heart sunk for my boy, for how difficult the task he was attempting to complete. I told him that I...
9 comments
Read more

Trying to be more of a planner

By Home with Tracy
In December I started making a monthly meal plan.  I was excited, but a little nervous about how it would all turn out.  I must say I was pleasantly surprised at the outcome.  It didn't take as much time as I thought it would. I made the meal calendar for the month and then wrote down all the ingredients I would need.  That part was a little overwhelming at first.  I separated the lists into perishables and non-perishables/freezable.   Now I do a once a month shopping trip for the non-perishables/freezables and then a bi-weekly shopping trip for perishables.  I don't stick to the menu every day, but I know that I will have enough meals for a whole month.  When making out the menu I tried to put similar meals back to back.  Like one night we will have meatloaf and the next night we have shepherd pie.  I use the same ingredients 2 days in a row.  It saves time and money. My once a month shopping trip consists of bulk buying...
1 comment
Read more

Dear Adoptive Mom Who Didn't Adopt

By Home with Tracy
Dear Adoptive Mom Who Didn't Adopt, It is difficult to express the loss of a child through a failed adoption. It is difficult for people to understand. But I am here to let you know that I understand. I understand your pain. I understand your loss. I have felt your heartbreak. I have cried your tears. You don't start the process of an adoption thinking the end result would be a bed that is still empty. You don't think that there will be a seat at the table that wont be filled. You don't think of all the goodnight kisses that will never be given. You don't think that you will never give comforting hugs, letting your child know you will always be there mommy. You don't start the process of an adoption thinking you will come out at the end without your child. It is difficult because the people around you may not respond to your loss. They may not realize that you are grieving the loss of that child. Your child. They may not realize that even though you never ...
Post a Comment
Read more